Skip to content

Refind Man

Chic meets sleek, Culture and sheets

The last  days have been rough. I attend a CMA group and Open Art studio on Wednesdays. The relationship with this guy is not working. Let’s call him Craig. I’ve noticed how my views on life and optimism have changed over the past month. My drive and desire to function and move on with my life fluctuates irrationally. Leaving me in a daze like confused smoke from an incent, drifting neither here nor there, straight..then up, spirals, left, right, descends and finally burns out to nothing. In the group and Art studio today something grabbed me. I didn’t feel hopeless. I felt refreshed.

Many people have claimed to have had an awe moment or spiritual awaking in life. For me, I think that may be it. -Ginyar

 Your life is your life
don’t let it be clubbed into dank submission.
Be on the watch.
There are ways out.
There is a light somewhere.
… It may not be much light but
it beats the darkness.
Be on the watch.
(The) God(s) will offer you chances.
Know them.
Take them.
You can’t beat death but
you can beat death in life, sometimes.
And the more often you learn to do it,
the more light there will be.
Your life is your life.
Know it while you have it.
You are marvelous
(the) God(s) wait to delight

 Sincerly. -Ginyar

 

Tags: , , , , ,

I have to kick out two articles a  week. Honestly this feels taxing. I haven’t researched anything. I’m not following any major event and pop culture entertainments make me angry. I get so annoyed by the various House Wives, reality D- F listers and the kardashians. I mean how is that relevant to my life? Pop culture is like salt. It’s ok a sprinkle here or there. After that is just chalks up to bad taste and simple unhealthy. These people aren’t bad people. I don’t see the logic in observing people act stupid: shuck and jive for a prize. Some of these reality stars are just being themselves. And if they are not. Hey, I commend them for making a living any how. From where I stand I choose to neither judge or understand….BEAUTIFUL

Tags: , , , ,

The livelihood of most of the inhabitants on the North American continent from a broad prospective is that most of us live a middle class lifestyle. Without regard to the recession, being just barely comfortable only shadowing security. But this is from the vantage point of individuals with college degrees. Being in your mid-twenties and acquiring a shaky collegiate profile, just enough courses to spark a future, however still short of a B.A., which amounts to nothing, this was me. Should my character, desire for culture and fashion dwindle because of a slight economic deficiency and apparel accessibility? This is the question.

My forecast could seem a bit gloom; moreover, dandyism is a ritual or assurance for most lads. I arrived in New York with just more than lent in my pocket. To me a crisp button down and a tailored coat signify stability and comfort in an uncertain era, paired with fitted jeans mimics strength and functionality. Comfort, strength and function, three essentials that most guys could agree they need in a city as vast and alive as New York. Aid your self with a sneaker or wingtips depending on the power you need to fuel you through the day, and for touch of individual panache a pocket square or shard. 

“It’s of the utmost importance that we preserve this Extraordinary magic bubble and most certainly not let this stressful crisis impinge upon dreams and imagination.” –Kris Van Assche. 

Often times the male entity is condition to venture and prosper even so when he is not yet ready. So this is where the sartorial culture comes into view to console him, eluding chaos and ambivalence but insuring structure and balance to a young vision. Do you choose to maintain a lifestyle that is conducive and nurturing to self and even required for your sanity? The answer is absolutely, but how?

My dear Lad, for years luve the vintage community has been catering to the simple yet custom fit palate that sartorial-ist/ vintage fashionisto’s acquire. Now the couturiers dominate the vintage fit but some stores such as housing works, Thrift stores and even custom Vintage stores now retreat fabrics to preserve the age of the cloth. Look for classic pieces and brands that is synonymous with durability and craftsmanship. Keep in mind that only pieces that can be salvaged and have life in them should be assumed. Tailoring and dry cleaning can easily extend the term you keep them.

Window-shopping weekly not sporadically increases your accessibility to different pieces that may be available at a more convenient wage. New interpretations of your favorite style genre may be seen that better fits your personality and lifestyle. This is solely and apologetically about what suits you. Sample sales have great finding at a slightly elevated outlay but the textiles, shoes and bags are chic and unique. You should not be afraid to spend currency in exchange for quality. If the piece is going to endure or last a decade or two it is worth the purchase and can be made a necessity. But always be realistic with your wallet.

Tags: , , ,

So I said that I was going to commit to writing everyday. A literary diet of funky syntax. No fasting and continual editing. Only raw thoughts ready for mental mastication. What shall I give to you?  What format do I follow? How much should be shared and how little do I hold onto? One thing that I know for sure, is that when you are honest I mean completely honest. The identification changes lives. The therapeutic value of connecting with another human being is transcending.

I thought I needed to search  the world only to find my self. -Ginyar Aknot Ejiofor

 

Tags: , , ,

The other day I meet a Guy. We had a lovely time. Funny thing is, the scene reminded me a movie from a LoGo film. Two attractive, articulate black men chuckling in the dark walking in glow below the moon light.  I’m lost in the direction I was going with this. I can’t believe that I am the person that I fantasized about being as an adolescent.

While in Florida a few things became aware to me. For instance, I know that it is not where you are from that determines how far you can go in life. Laurence Fishburne the actor that played Morpheus in the Matrix and lead in Othello is from Augusta, Georgia. Morpheus, just the thought of it is baffling and inspiring comes from a place remnant of poverty, deprivation and ignorance. I’ve always knew that I was different. Not better but knowing that my destiny was much bigger than my immediate comprehension and what people dreamed for me.

Some how I knew that I was supposed to be somewhere and would do something great. And that it was not there in Jacksonville, Florida.

Going off to college only to return to a place and live the lives of the people around me didn’t interest me.

Tags: , ,

I have a considerably good life in New York. Walking the city in tailored clothes discovering new events and revenues. After years of being mindful of what I eat and being health conscious I have a body that I can embrace. I am extremely articulate and cultured meeting guys that adore me and want to give me room to build and grow as man and human being.

I did not have the clothes that I want, the job that I long for and I continue to look for the apartment that is comfortable and feel likes home.  Le Vent suite…. Ejiofor Just breath.

My perception and quality of life are gifts that I don’t have to have.

Being smoldering, sleek and remarkably driven is who I am. -Ginyar

Tags: , ,

There is a saying…That you don’t know what you’ve got untill it’s gone. Over the last few months as my life became progressively better I begin to see only what I did not have and think about things I have not done. Instead of being grateful I was regretful. Living  with a disease that talks to me in my own voice telling me how inadequate and inferior I will always be.

Learning and receiving evidence that the void that I have can’t be filled by external things. Sit with those feelings of indifference. In a treatment facility upstate New York Counselor Connie said to me…

Feelings are not fact. But it is a fact that I feel. -Connie

Riding in the back seat on i295 en route to my mother’s home, this is something that I realized. “My story does not have to be a tragic one”  Anna Nicole, Lindsey Lohan, Jimmie Hendrix, River Phoenix…

Some of the stuff that I’ve been through would have broken most.  Sniffing cocaine uptown, being drugged and raped as a child and adult. Being homeless in the city that never sleep. Styling for a major record company and walking away, being diagnosed with HIV, hustling people and my self, dropping out of college and having Design school steal my portfolio. High profile, lonesome insanity.

 Hell is only known to the people who are in it.- Ginyar

Tags: , , , , , , , , ,

Write honest from my heart. It’s been 11 days I don’t have a sponsor. I’ve overcome a number or obstacles. Mainly i’m facing life on life terms. Can’t say I feel ampted and welcoming but I do hold on and walk forward. You never acquire more in life than you can mentally and physically sustain…. Don’t know where I am going with this.

Gonzalo said to me that untill I combine the personal I like sexually and the type of men I like to date , I will never move forward….

Happiness is…

Sanchez, New Apartment, living healthy, appreciating Me…

Tags: , , , ,

Comes to the light, comes to the light….Everything, comes to the light. -Jill Scott

The person I want to be; The truth that I will be. You become who you should be. The truth comes to you. You can make it fade but it will not sail away.

If everything comes to the light then understanding and awareness must  come as well. -Ginyar

Tags: , , , , ,

Follow

Get every new post delivered to your Inbox.

Join 412 other followers